Sunnah Method Of Marriage

19. Prohibited Actions

(1.) It is completely forbidden for the husband or wife to discuss their private matters and sexual relations with anyone, in words or by indication. Nabi ﷺ has said, “On the day of Judgment, the lowest person in status in the sight of Allâh ta’âlâ will be a person who had sexual relations with his wife, and then mentioned those matters to others.” (Muslim, Abû Dâwud)

(2.) It is harâm (unlawful) to have anal intercourse. Nabi ﷺ has stated, “Allâh ta’âlâ will not glance with mercy at that person who has anal intercourse.” (Nasaî, Ibn Hibbân) Nabi ﷺ has also said, “Accursed is the person who has anal intercourse with his wife.” (Abû Dâwud) Together with anal intercourse being harmful from a medical point of view, it is also contrary to honor and noble character.

(3.) It is harâm (unlawful) to have sexual intercourse when one’s wife is menstruating or during nifâs (bleeding after childbirth). Allâh ta’ala has stated, “Stay away (from sexual intercourse) from women during their menses.” (Baqarah)

Yes, in these conditions, the husband can fondle and take pleasure over a piece of cloth covering the portion between the navel and knees. However, it is not permissible to take any enjoyment under this piece of cloth, so that one does not fall into any prohibited and harmful action. The shepherd who grazes his sheep on the boundaries of someone else’s field always fears that perhaps his sheep may enter that field.

Therefore, a Muslim should always remain cautious in matters of religion and health. He should always choose that path and way in all his matters, dealings and actions in which there is more precaution and in which lies greater piety.

A few other prohibited and disliked acts:
1.) Watching pornographic material for stimulation
2.) Fantasizing about another person during intercourse
3.) Oral sex
4.) Taking pictures and even worse, intimate pictures of one another
5.) Cross dressing
6.) Bondage and flogging
7.) Husband drinking wife’s milk
8.) Using food during foreplay
9.) Using sex aids during foreplay
10.) Sexually provocative dancing accompanied by music

To live a happy married life, we should try to follow the following guidelines mentioned by our respected ulamâ. By doing so, Allâh ta’ala will grant a person the enjoyment of Jannah in this world.